Destinosophy by Helena Lind

Love and Destiny

Love and Destiny

By and large, we live in a society that takes advantage of its spiritual roots. Okay! Now that I have your attention, let me explain.

We’ve all done it. Sometimes, when something bad happens in our lives, it might not be the end-all of situations, but it seems like a stopping point for us. The keys are lost. We can’t locate our wallet. There’s a problem at work, and if it doesn’t get fixed, you’ll be written up.

And our first instinct is to think – oh, please, don’t let this happen. If there’s anything out there, don’t let this happen.

Most times, we aren’t reaching out towards any specific deity. We’re just speaking to anything and anyone that will listen.It’s even more prevalent when it comes to our romantic relationships.

Please let this work out.
Please let him be the one.
Please let us be able to work things out, let us take care of each other, let us…..

And the list goes on, seemingly forever.

And what is the bottom line at the end of all those wishes, prayers, and hopes?
I don’t want to be alone.

It’s not just you. Everyone has that thought, at least once in a while. We’re naturally drawn to companionship. It’s something that makes us feel better on a level that we can’t really explain, and that we don’t like to acknowledge. It’s why so many of us love the idea of owning pets – cats and dogs can offer us that same sort of companionship, and often help fill the void that comes from being on our own. We don’t love being alone.

We love being around others. Even for those of us that have problems with anxiety and depression, we still want to be around others on some level. It helps with our mood, and it helps with our general mindset.

So it just makes sense that so many of us want to find something more than just companionship between a friend or a pet. We want to find a deeper level of companionship, where we can go home after a hard day at work and fall into the arms of someone that truly and utterly loves us, that cares for us enough to listen to every last worry, complaint, and desperate bid to make life bend to our whims…and to whom we can hear the same from.

That’s what this article is about, basically.

When we make that thought, unconscious, unbidden, it’s from a space so deep within, and it can hardly be recognized. Our soul is missing pieces, and it’s crying out for something – for someone – to come and help fill up that void.

We’re missing our soul mates. We want our other half to show up, and help soothe the ache that comes with not being whole. And I’m going to give you a little bit of information on what that entails…both the ache, the balm, and the joy that finally comes with finding your other half.

There is life and death power in sex and romance. You are destined for impact, and you have the ability to protect your future by living carefully right now. This is what I like to call the theory of Agents of Destiny. It might be a concept that you’re familiar with but, more likely, it’s a concept that you’re trying to learn more about. The theory isn’t vastly common just yet – it’s not something that is wild spread or spoken about en masse. Which, really, is kind of a shame.

This means that in large or small contexts, we are all playing out destiny’s hand in real life. And, as is always the case, in every aspect of the world, some people are granted a larger role than others.
These are the Agents of Destiny.

Now, they don’t always wear black, but they do have greater knowledge about the world around us. Agents are people who have been chosen to play our destiny’s hand in a greater way than most people. They’re tasked with bringing about change in people for the better. Sometimes, these agents are meant to bring about necessary dynamics to the course of time, history, and love.

I know – you’re thinking what’s so important that love would be included in that list?
It’s something that I used to wonder about, too. But the simple fact is this – our world wouldn’t exist without love. We wouldn’t have the drive to push onwards if it weren’t for the fact that we were trying to do better for others.

Love isn’t something that you can just explain.
The Webster dictionary has tried.
Noun – an intense feeling of deep affection.
Noun – a person or thing that one loves.
Verb – feel a deep romantic or sexual attachment to (someone).

They’ve tried to boil it down to the bare bones of the thought, but they just can’t quite reach the mark. See, love isn’t just a jumble of words. Often, it’s not something that can be explained. It’s a feeling deep within you, a budding burst of affection and energy and warmth. These feelings make you want to do better so that you can create a better world for those around you.

As such, when an Agent of Destiny is selected to better the world around them for their loved one, an unstoppable force is created. They have destiny backing them – they have a path stretched out before them, that they cannot help but walk down, helping to shape and mold history into something worth living.

In this article, we’re going to talk about some of the more well documented cases of loved ones who were destined to meet, how to figure out whether we have true love written in the book of our providence, and how to tell when we have met our Agent of Destiny for the heart, along with other interesting tidbits that might help you figure out exactly what path you’re going to take.

I’ve mentioned once that it’s a particularly prevalent event for us to ignore our spiritual world in the wake of the modern day era. After all, there’s a lot going on! We have the computer, the internet, mainstream media…and the ever popular appearance of our celebrity icons.

Let’s face it, even if we aren’t a fan of the Kardashian’s, there’s at least one celebrity that we will follow on Facebook, Twitter, or even just through internet headlines.

Do you know that some of them are ‘soul mates’?

Yeah, we’ve had that thought before too. That they are just meant to be together. It’s like the cast of Supernatural – a group of men and women that have formed familial, platonic and, in some cases, romantic bonds that seem straight out of a novel.

Which begs the question, exactly what is a ‘soul mate’?

Well, to put it simply, everyone has a soul. And again, everyone has a soul family.
Now, a soul family is a group of other souls – other humans – who come into our lives for a particular reason. Sometimes, it’s a member of your blood family. Sometimes, it’s a friend or a lover that you were meant to meet from the start.

See, when two souls encounter each other in their lives, the friction between that interaction creates a specific kind of energy. This energy can manifest in more than one way. For the purpose of this article, we’re going to discuss the specific energy field that creates a sense of déjà vu.
At times in our lives, we will encounter someone with a soul that clicks with ours in such a specific, natural way that it seems as though we’ve known them for years.
That’s because we have.

Now, before I give you the down and dirty on different soul relationships that you might encounter in your life, I want to talk to you about some famous people that you might have seen with a special connection in the tabloids.
It’s especially prevalent in the couples of the past.

One such example would be Liz Taylor and Richard Burton, who had such a connection that the energy could be seen in every picture taken together. This couple is famous for getting married, divorced, and then meeting back up again for a second marriage shortly before Richard Burton’s death. It’s said that no matter where he was in the world, at five in the afternoon, without fail, Paul Newman would call his wife, Joanne Woodward.

In more modern times, some might look towards Ellen DeGeneres and Portia DeRossi, Sarah Jessica Parker and Matthew Broderick, or even Jensen and Danneel Ackles. The connection between these people goes far beyond the usually forced romanticism found within the tabloids, or the pictures of couples that are occasionally caught on camera by the paparazzi. In fact, they hold a union that can be seen within their televised interviews, their pictures, a connection that cannot be ignored or comprehended. It’s what makes them so easy to connect with.

We see their love, and we seek out a version of that in our own lives. While the chaos that ensues Taylor Swift’s constantly changing life might be more interesting in terms of news articles and magazine covers, it’s these celebrities with such an obvious connection – such a clearly visible soul bond – that we can’t help but try to look for those own traits within our personal lives.

But what about soul mates that aren’t in the spotlight? It’s not like the television is the only reason we have access to these esoteric couples. In fact, there are plenty cases of concrete and irrefutable soul mates in the pages of our history books.

Napoleon Bonaparte and Josephine, Juba and Selene, Emperor Augustus and Livia – these are just a few examples of real-life soul mates.
Do you know that many scholars and romantics have coined Napoléon Bonaparte’s letters to his wife Joséphine de Beauharnais the most romantic in all of history? They were enraptured with each other from the very start and quickly fell into a whirlwind romance that has been known through the ages.

‘Ever since I left you, I have been sad. I am only happy when by your side. Ceaselessly I recall your kisses, your tears, your enchanting jealousy; and the charms of the incomparable Joséphine keep constantly alight a bright and burning flame in my heart and senses.’

He referred to her, more than once, as his soul mate. And, though they would eventually find themselves divorced from each other, it was still Josephine’s name that served as the last word Napoleon ever uttered.

And again, there was Juba and Selene, who may not have swapped romantic letters but are hailed as being from a love-story that spanned the ages, that spanned even time.
They were children from ill-fated heritages, neither destined to take the throne and both somewhat lost within their own lives. As children, both Juba and Selene had been marched as chained prisoners in a Roman triumphal parade. Both had also been pardoned, fostered by Augustus, and reared to adulthood as nominal members of the imperial family.

We must recall that in the world of imperial politics, love seldom played a role in marriage–and if it did, it often had disastrous results. And yet there are few scholars who can deny, through the inscriptions, coinage, and texts discovered over the years, that these two lovers were meant to meet.
There are countless examples of this type of deep, passionate, all-consuming, yet the ultimately challenging type of love throughout real history. Hundreds of examples of this passionate, soul-mate type of love can also be found throughout our legends and our religious texts.

Some would argue that King Solomon and the Queen of Sheba were soul mates. They cite the tale of the Queen of Sheba’s visits to King Solomon; which has undergone extensive Ethiopian, Jewish, and Islamic elaborations. This has actually become the subject of one of the most widespread cycles of legends in the Orient!

‘And King Solomon gave to the queen of Sheba all that she desired, whatever she asked besides what was given her by the bounty of King Solomon.’

It is often thought that their relationship was far more than political and that the child that the Queen returned to Sheba with was a son of Solomon. Others prefer to avoid texts of a religious nature. They seek out evidence of soul mates within mythological texts, and stories from the Arthurian era.

These people tend to turn towards Robin Hood and Lady Marian for guidance. Now, there’s some debate as to whether these fine folks are based in truth or not, but there’s no real argument as to whether or not they were completely meant for each other.
And yet, even these time-proven soul mates had to face problems. It seems that every great love is tasked with an obstacle that must be overcome. I think that brings up an interesting question: if we’re soul mates, why isn’t love easy?

People often assume that when you find one of these soul-mates like relationships, that it will be easier than other types of relationships. We assume this because of the closeness of friendship likely found with this person, the depth of connection one feels with a soul mate, and the similarities between these two people that create such crackling, vivid energy.

But the simple truth is that when passions are stirred so fully, these sparks can become raging flames. Such deep caring, connection, and passion can also mean hot tempers, sometimes obsessive demeanors, and demanding behavior.

This is known as the dark history of love, and can easily be highlighted in the tale of Lancelot and Guinevere. One of the greatest knights of the roundtable was known as Lancelot. He was loyal, wise, strong, and kind. But he was also in love with the Queen, Guinevere. The stories that wrap around these brave knights are countless. In one, we learn of Demoiselle d’Escalot, who fell in love with Lancelot and, when the feeling was unreturned, died of a supposed broken heart.

And, in another, we learn of Lancelot’s love for Guinevere, and how it eventually became his demise. Their adulterous relationship was based off on emotional turmoil and affection that shouldn’t have been acted upon.

I know that this is something we still face in modern day life. We’ve all had eyes for our best friend’s partner, for the boss that we should not be crushing on.

That’s just one reason why challenging, demanding, draining, passionate, intense, painful, haunting, and addictive are all ways that we can describe the nature of soul mates. Sometimes, like with the Queen of Sheba and King Solomon, love comes easy, and it comes without strife.
Other times, such as with the two women who loved Sir Lancelot so thoroughly, it can create a whirlwind of passion that borders on dangerous.

What’s that old saying?
Love ain’t easy, folks.
Soulmate relationships aren’t, either.
But they are worth it.

It was worth it to the Norse Gods Freya and Odin, who would fight both at each other’s side and for each other’s name countless times during their reign. It was worth it to the Greek gods Ares and Aphrodite, who risked ridicule and adulterous notions to be with each other. It was worth it to Hathor, mistress of the west, who is hailed as being one of the most important goddesses of Egypt, and who was worshipped by royalty and commoners alike.

As Bob Marley is famous for saying – everyone is going to hurt you. It’s just about trying to find that one person worth suffering for.

And, of course, you must also find the one person who is willing to suffer for you in turn.
Like every relationship, soul mate’s must learn to grow within their time spent together. Neither partner will be able to remain as they were prior to the relationship. If one of them does, then the relationship will fail.

Extraordinary love does not mean being with the person that you most easily get along with. Because as detailed above, extraordinary love very often isn’t easy. It doesn’t come easy for those who are in the limelight of modern-day fame, it didn’t come easy for those from a biblical time, and it will not come easy for you.

But let me tell you this, it’s worth it. And when you find that love, you will know, deep down, that you must do everything in your power to hold onto it

That, of course, leads us to question: how do we know? How do we find that in our own lives?
Well, it’s actually not that easy.

You see, love is more than just romance and erotica. It’s something that is meant to be an all-encompassing part of our lives. It’s something that is supposed to be high as well as hot; it’s meant to be strong as well as tender. The relationship that ignites a spark within our soul is more than just a few quickly typed up text messages and heart-shaped emoji’s.

It’s more than any other relationship that we have been involved in.

Now, first, you should know that there’s more than one form of a soul mate.
There are soul friends, who are akin to siblings born into another family, who will have your back no matter the situation. We’ve all seen that by-now internet famous post – tag someone that you would go to jail with after a Friday night out. Ring any bells? That’s the basic example of a soul friend. They’re someone that, while neither of you is romantically involved with the other, you would do the unthinkable for.

There are soul teachers, who are meant to guide us through life. My hope, as one would imagine, is that through this site, I might be able to offer that connection to someone. I want my words to reach into a portion of your soul, resonating so deeply within you that it’s never forgotten.
And then, of course, there are soul mates.

It’s within this category that we seek out our destined partner, our Agent of Destiny, and the missing piece to our heart. If I’ve got your interest, and you want to learn more, read on. Read on.

Do we have true love written in the book of our providence?
Maybe.
Yes, you read that right.
Maybe.

Everyone wants to find that one person that connects with their soul so utterly and completely, the feel whole again. They want to meet the Agent of Destiny that completes our heart, that fits together with our own soul so utterly, it’s obvious that we have met them before, in a different life.

Lovers bound to meet each other, playing out the hand that destiny has given twice over – three times over – an endless loop through which we can meet each other, time and again, through which we can be whole.

There is always that second soul out there, waiting for us. But that doesn’t mean we are always meant to find our Agent of Destiny within every life cycle.
See, our path is always twining, twisting, and changing.
That’s what it means to have a soul, after all. We make our own decisions. We walk down a path that is crafted by destiny, but not utterly defined by destiny. As such, there are going to be times and lives where we simply don’t meet up with our half.

And it hurts.

It hurts so badly; there are times when the pain and desperation will make you want to die and when it will make you want to stop, and give up, and never try to find another partner. We cut ourselves off from the dating world, heartbroken, and burrow ourselves away with a container of rocky road and our favorite song played on repeat. We like to get online and post dank memes about always being alone, or staying locked in our houses. And that’s okay. We’ve all been there. We’ve all done that. You can even keep doing that. You just can’t believe that they are one hundred percent true.
Because they’re not.

They might seem true in that one moment, but they aren’t going to be your entire life. Not unless you let them.

What we have to remember, hard as it might be, is that one heartbreak isn’t the end. Even if all we face in this life cycle is heartbreak, it’s still not the end. Your soul mate is out there, waiting, just a few life beats away. Destiny will guide the two of you together.

And what happens in the meantime?
Well, I’ve got a couple of nice tips to help you deal with the desire, the pain, and the waiting.

First, don’t give up.
That rocky road might work as a salve for the soul right now, but it’s not going to be enough to keep you going throughout this entire life cycle. You’re going to need more than some freezer burnt ice cream to keep you going!

It might be tempting to lock the door to your house, and the door to your heart, and just never try again. But what’s that really going to accomplish? Unless you want to become the next neighborhood cat lady, you’re going to want to get back on the horse eventually and try another date, another person, another chance at life and love in general.

Even if you need to take a furlough to get over the current heartbreak you’re feeling, don’t let that stop you forever. Keep trying to get more in your life. One day, it’s going to happen.
Secondly, search for that more!

See, there’s a pretty good reason why you aren’t finding your soul mate just yet. Destiny wants us to learn how to grow and evolve over time, becoming a better person, and becoming a brighter soul. By discovering more about ourselves, will be better prepared for the future, and for the next life cycle.

How do you discover more about yourself? Take a class that you’ve been putting off. Go on a hiking trip that you’ve always dreamt of. Set aside those ten minutes a day for yoga that you’ve thought about for years but never done. Grow yourself as a person, and you’ll be able to grow yourself on a spiritual scale, as well.

Thirdly, don’t keep it to yourself!

We’ve talked about how modern times is making it more difficult to find our soul mate, but that doesn’t have to be the case. Turn to sites like this and find like-minded individuals to talk with, to help put into perspective that you aren’t the only person dealing with these problems. There are others like you, and they are more than happy to help you learn to deal with the pain. Just look at me, at the people that are found in the comments on this site. There are others out there in the same situation as you, and others who used to be in this situation.

Their life experiences can help you out in ways that are almost impossible to imagine before speaking to them.

Fourthly and finally is the idea that you can work on other soul bonds in this timeline.
I spoke a little bit about soul friends and soul teachers earlier in this article. I’ll be coming to you shortly with even more information on them in the future. For now, just know that, while your soul mate might not be in this life cycle, that doesn’t mean your soul friend or soul teacher isn’t in this life cycle. By working on that bond in this timeline, you will strengthen yourself in the future ones.

They can help keep you in tune with yourself. They can help you through the tough times when you feel like you’re completely alone, and when it seems like there’s nothing else that can be done except sit and give up.

Soul friends and soul teachers are just as important in our lives as soul mates, because they help us figure out how to grow into a better person. They can help you deal with the pain that comes from a bad match up, or a stretch of time when you don’t have anyone around to kiss your wounds better or hold you close at night.
A strong and varied social network is a must to make it through life.
That’s just fact.

But that’s just how to deal with the pain. What about the desire?
Well, there is nothing wrong with working on yourself through interactions with others. A soul bond is created on more than just feelings of lust, adventure, and longing. They’re created on something more than that.

But let’s just focus on a life cycle where we don’t have that chance.
Does that mean we have to stay celibate?
No.

It just means that we have to be picky. Every relationship that takes place in a life cycle without our soul mate should focus on helping us grow. While our soul remains stagnant and longing for its other half, our spirit, courage, and inner mind can still flourish.

You don’t want to pick a new beau up at the bar every other weekend.
Still, you shouldn’t stop yourself from learning, growing, and thriving in the community around you. Find a loving partner, and use the time that you’re with them to help you figure out what you’re looking for next time. Grow and flourish under the tender hands of your current lover; evolve and surge forward in this world, claiming it as your own, as a place for you to thrive, survive, and discover both yourself and your inner needs.

This is going to be a time of growth and discovery for you. You can work on building up your courage, your information base, and how you can develop yourself on a spiritual level. It’s a chance to expand on yourself so that you can better lock up and match up with your soul mate when you find him in the next life. Developing your interests will make you a better person, and will give you a better sense of yourself.
And that, you see, is what you need.

Your soul mate might fill up a part of you that was missing, but it can’t be what you base your life around. You have to be a full person on your own so that you’re capable of lifting up your soul mate just as they lift you up.

Life is a battle of give and take, and it’s a battle of evolution. Create a better self, and you’ll be able to come up with a better life for those around you. In this life, you’ll be able to discover new facets of yourself that didn’t previously exist. Dealing with the desire for a soul mate isn’t easy – but finding ways to grow within the world you currently inhabit might be more palatable than it first sounds.

That, I’m sure, just opens up another question for you.
How do I know if I don’t have a soul mate in this life cycle, or if our meeting has just been delayed?
It actually has an answer far easier than you would first imagine.
You’ll feel it.

There we go, folks. That’s how you know. It’s really that simple.
There is going to be a part of your soul that can tell; it’s missing part is alive. It will come in the form of endless hope, endless waiting for something better – and the warm sensation that comes with knowing that hope, that better, is going to show up one day. While our minds may not be able to fully comprehend this concept at times, there’s no doubt about whether our souls and the inner parts of our hearts can figure it out. We’ll be able to tell whether there’s someone right for us lurking around the corner.
They might not show up until your fifty…or sixty…or even older than that. But it’s going to happen for you, one day. Have hope, have faith, believe and one day, you’re soul mate will show up.
This article probably didn’t answer all of your questions. In fact, I know that it didn’t.

We always have questions. That’s human nature, right? We see a little, and we want a lot. We go through one door and want to go through eight more. Our basic urge is to get better, go higher, and find out more about ourselves.

Hopefully, you’ll continue to peruse this site, and you’ll continue to be able to find more of those answers through these articles, or through other sites like this one. We have pages on different crystals and herbs, if those are something that has struck your interest, and we are constantly working on expanding our database, to bring you more information on other types of soul mates, how they can affect your life, and what you can do to keep your head above water in the trying times that make up our everyday life.
Life is unimaginably short and passes even faster than that; there will be enough average things in your life. Don’t let love be one of them.

Keep faith, and keep searching.

One day, in this soul cycle or in the next, you’ll find the other part of your soul.
And in the meantime? You can find ways to make your own soul that much more alluring, that much more vibrant, and that much stronger.

In the end, it’s going to be worth it.

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